Good morning from the dystopian hellscape we all live in.
If you think that’s a little dramatic, consider this: seriously, guys, we live in a dystopian hellscape.
I will not deliver a pat message that the good in America will prevail, that we all need to go forward with love and kindness and create the world we want. We do, but there is very real danger to very real humans right now and it is right to have space for anger, fear and sadness.
Black Americans woke up to a president-elect who is endorsed by the KKK. Immigrants woke up to a president-elect who has vowed to round up and deport them. Muslims woke up to a president-elect who has equated them with lawless terrorists, even those who gave their lives to serve our country. The LGBT community woke up to a president-elect who cares so little for them that his vice president supports conversion therapy, which contorts a person’s inborn inclination to love – the most pure of all human impulses – into self-hatred and shame. Women woke up to a president-elect who bragged about sexually assaulting women and called victims of sexual assault liars if they do come forward and liars if they do not, and to a vice-president who believes that he, instead of you, knows whether you should carry a pregnancy to term. And all of us woke up to the realization that a substantial number of our fellow Americans condone these beliefs. I love you all and I am so sorry.
What do we do now?
Get angry, cry, complain and talk to like-minded people. Explain to your kids, in age-appropriate terms, what has happened. Don’t scare them, rather explain that hatred feeds on fear. When we see exactly what actions are taken against people of color, immigrants, Muslims, LGBT people and women, we will come up with our plans and we will act. Remember that all of the best and bravest people were on our side of history.
If you want one productive, incredibly important action you can take right now, I urge you to contact your senator and demand the confirmation of Supreme Court nominee Merrick Garland. This is not mere politics. There is a long precedent and a constitutional imperative that the Senate confirm appropriate nominees: “[the president] shall nominate, and by and with the Advice and Consent of the Senate, shall appoint Judges of the supreme Court…”. The Constitution is ours as much as it is theirs. Already, the vacant Supreme Court seat has resulted in delays and miscarriages of justice. In the near future, the Supreme Court will hear cases regarding voting rights, due process rights for suspects, the right to access abortion, disability rights, corporate personhood and immigration. Several of our sitting justices are elderly and likely to die or retire within the next four years. New justices will be appointed and despite what I said in my last sentence, those people NEVER DIE. They are like popes. Not like our last pope who decided to retire and we all thought it was kind of weird, but all of our other popes. Trump and Pence have already pledged to appoint justices who will overturn Roe v. Wade. This is one seat we can influence. We are all worried about the executive and legislative branches, but remember the American balance of power and the influence of the judiciary on the laws of our country. Please, if you can, write or call your Senator and remind them of their obligation to confirm an appropriate nominee. If you have a liberal Senator, urge him or her to take a leadership role in pushing for confirmation.
This morning, though, I’m still at the crying phase. I’m also at the “I slept two hours and am trying to do my job, which really goes to my question of why and how our country doesn’t think that a woman should be in charge” phase, so I don’t have time to write more. I’m leaving you with some of our best crying resources. Not to brag, but we’re sort of great at crying in that we do it A LOT and know all the tricks. If you’re new to crying in public or trying to find a location to cry on the go, we got your back. We love you, America. Not the racist, Islamophobic, xenophobic, sexist, heterosexist part of America, at least not today, but we love all the rest of you.
- If you need to queue up some crying music: Playlist of The Month : Soundtrack To My Tears
- If you get a case of the weepies at work or running errands this week: How To Cry In Public
- If you want to remind yourself of the sillier things that have upset you: Things I’ve Cried About As An Adult
- If you feel a breakdown coming and want to figure out where to cry it out: Break It Down: The Best and Worst Places To Cry
- If you would rather divert your tears to fake things for a while: Pop Culture Moments That Make Me Cry